Check, Check, Check...huh?
Many singles have a list. A list. Yes a list of things that their mate must have in order for them to be the one. If you are a man you probably have her looks pretty high on your list of priorities. If you are a woman looks are second to a good job. Women like stability and men are visual. Both can be fleeting.
The current economy has taught many people that they can not put their trust in a job, career or clients. As women age many men see that beauty is truly fleeting or they may find that it takes a lot of money for her to look that way. Hair salons, nail salons, waxing, plastic surgeons, Saks Fifth Avenue, Neiman Marcus, Harrods and Barney’s all help to keep her looking fabulous. What you thought was natural beauty was store bought. But, that’s ok because his net worth was inflated by his own ego. So what’s a single suppose to do in this society of make believe.
There is nothing wrong with looking great but don’t let it be your only asset. Date people with vision, a plan and future even before you see it, you hear about it and see efforts of moving toward it. This is a single with a future.
Communicate while a single. Talk to the person you are dating. Find out if they have a vision. What are their feelings about work? Ask him if he won the lottery what would he do with the money. If he tells you he would retire on an island and never work again. He may be lazy and is working only to avoid homelessness. A man should have a career vision and a time line. If you are curious about what that is, well it means that he knows all of the opportunities within his own company that he can move into causing his office location and his income bracket to change. He talks about winning from within. This is a man with a vision. He will advance. He is looking to advance. A good hard working and supportive woman can take her family far with him.
A good woman should bring something to the table other than a pretty face. Men are visual so please leave all of your “hag attire” behind. No, he does not have to accept you as you are because there are so many other women who care about how they look. The details matter. Have something in your pretty little head. Never dethrone a man in front of his friends or at home, he will leave and never return. More strong women have run good men off with their mouths. Your mouth can become a lethal weapon, wounding, damaging and destroying relationships with nice people.
Find the right time and place to voice your displeasure sweetly. Southern women have mastered this technique. While visiting in Savannah, GA once I heard a woman say to a man – I am not sure if it was her husband,
“Sweetie Pie, as much as I long to hear you speak,next time could you do it with a mint cause you say such sweet stuff, I might want a kiss.”
Did she mean his breath stinks or would the mint make his kiss even sweeter. I’m not sure but he did put a mint in his mouth. Either way she won and he was smiling. We all thought “isn’t that cute.” This takes thought so don’t speak too soon. Mull your thoughts over in your head before you allow them to flow. The Holy Spirit will give you something to say or tell you to say nothing at all. Listen to him. He knows all.