Christians and On-line Dating...hmmm
I know that we live in a different time or era but I strongly suggest that you take some very serious precautions when dating on line. First of all, remember you know absolutely nothing about these people. If a perfect stranger walked up to you on the street and began a conversation asking questions about your life many of you would be offended and would label him or her crazy. That same person on a computer suddenly gets all of your attention and information. This is not safe or healthy and I believe extreme discretion should be used when deciding to date in this manner.
I know that there are people who have successfully found true love by way of the internet but you should also research the horror stories as well so that you have balanced information. When doing this research make sure you note the warnings that are given so that you make wise decisions. Now, what do I believe?
I do not agree with computer or internet dating. I believe that when dating you must know their background, their families, their friends, and watch them interact with these people. These interactions allow you to make decisions about their character. I know that you may feel you can watch these things happen after meeting on line but a man or woman is able to prearrange your visuals when they know when you are coming and the time. Why not meet your friends through other friends, family members, coworkers etc? Computers allow you to photoshop your appearance, personality and character. It’s better to meet the real person for real.
So get off the keyboards that only give you what you request and go visit friends, neighbors, libraries, parks, book stores, restaurants, etc and take on a real challenge – talk to people. Let someone look at the real you and find you attractive, strike up a conversation and show them that your mind works well without a computer. Interpersonal relationships will never be replaced by a machine. God said that it is not good for man to be alone. That has not changed.
We need each other no matter how often we irritate each other. Even with computers we are still trying to reach out and touch each other. We want to matter to someone. Calling the new person in your life should not begin with http: but with digits dailed and a voice answers.
How do you know if the person isn’t married? Is their spouse asleep in bed while you are flirting with their husband or wife on line, committing adultery in thought? Is it a bisexual person who may expose you to a series of diseases some even fatal? I know all of this is possible but interpersonal interactions allows the Holy Spirit to show you things that may give you an opportunity early to move on. If you have fallen into lust over the computer you may stay longer putting yourself at risk. With hundreds of hours invested, it may cause you not to make a good decision.
Being single for most people feels like a force pushing them at all times toward someone. Why? I believe it’s in this statement made by God thousands of years ago, “it is not good for man to be alone.” You should date and marry but don’t panic and put yourself at risk. The person you date or spend any time with should be someone that you are able to walk in his/her social circle before you are alone with them. You should value your life more than taking risk with it out of fear of being single. Single and Alive is wonderful.