Solidarity: My Sister's Keeper
As the first couple of weeks of the Trump Presidency play out on television like a new reality show, we all must admit that this has been the most bizarre presidency in modern time. I still find myself thinking about one thing, why would any woman hate Hillary Clinton more than they loathe a man who obviously sees us as second class citizens? If women should have compassion for any woman, we should all feel for Hillary Rodham Clinton. Men have publicly mistreated Hillary for years. So much so that I want to simply hug her. Politics aside, let’s just look at the injustices we know about that she has had to endure at the hands of men.
I love former President Bill Clinton and would vote for him again because he was a good president but he was not a good husband. Without going into too many details, his string of mistresses who I also blame (because once you KNOW a man is married you should and can stop an affair) have caused her much pain. Think of the humiliation she has endured at the hands of her husband and because it has happened so frequently you can only image the trust issues she must have with him and all men. Women don’t become hardened from birth, they are calloused over by frequent abuse, frustrations, disappointments and betrayals. I believe we can all attest to the fact that Hillary has had her fair share of hurt at the hands of the first man who promised to love and protect her.
Being exceptionally smart and obviously, a strong person with her own sense of purpose, Hillary was not content to sit on the sidelines and be a wife while her husband forged ahead with his political ambitions. She worked and worked hard to ensure all people have a better life and especially children. Hillary too moved forward with her career and it landed her in the middle of the White House.
Once she entered the man’s world of politics, we can only imagine how poorly she has been treated. On a much smaller scale than Hillary, I’ve had to deal with some degrading situations as a Pastor’s wife. I have encountered a lot of men who are condescending and simply nasty. Men that have tried to tell me how to dress, how to pray, where to sit, what to teach, how I should think and what I should say to ensure that all women who listened to me didn’t get any ideas about expanding their roles. Because I resisted, I was called a “rebel”, a “jezebel wife” which for the bible circles, that is the ultimate punishment. Through it all, I continued to smile even when they tried to deface my character with lies and slander, I stayed professional and polished.
Did it hurt? Of course, growing up in the Midwest like Hillary, we are bred to never allow anyone to throw us off or to see us cry. We stand, we square our shoulders and we smile and we never stop moving toward what we want. When I encounter another woman facing the same adversity, I immediately feel like I need to pray for her and if possible encourage her. My first instinct is never to hate her.
Many white women said they were upset about the 2012 Benghazi attacks which was a tragedy by any means. However, President Bush (H.W.) toppled a government with misinformation and over four thousand US soldiers died. The Iraq War cost the American government trillions of dollars, nevertheless, he was forgiven and never had to answer for that little mishap. President Bush never heard chants of “Lock him up”. Why did he get a pass? Why didn’t white women hate him? Why didn’t white men hate him? Why was white America so forgiving? Where was the outrage? What is in the DNA of white people that there is a hierarchy of value on people which goes like this:
White people of other countries
Black women (because of work purposes only)
Now to Trump, during his presidential candidacy, he was vicious and cruel to Hillary and most white women, as the polls seemed to suggest, were not outraged. He called her a “nasty woman”. He filled the front row of one of the debates with her husband’s mistresses. He led chants of “lock her up!’, he tried to intimidate her by standing behind her while she answered questions during a debate, as well as host of other horrific things. Most white women were silent and didn’t vote for her. If I didn’t like Hillary’s politics, I would have never voted for someone who saw my whole gender as second class. I wonder if white women have a hidden hatred for each other that we were unaware of, that they have hidden from us all. Why didn’t white women at least become disappointed and outraged with him for being so cruel to her?
Finally, the last noble gesture of Hillary Rodham Clinton was that she attended his inauguration. No one would have blamed her if she hadn’t. In fact, many of us wish she had not attended. I felt because of all the horrible things he said and did during the campaign, he didn’t deserve her presence to validate his questionable presidency. I wanted her to stay at home and be loved by Bill, to be hugged by him and encouraged by him with a romantic afternoon.
As women, we often find ourselves behind the eight ball. Yet, when other women like Omarosa and Kelly Anne see an opportunity to be in the limelight, they “go low” and are too happy to throw another woman under the bus. I say to these women, when it happens to you, will you expect us to help you, defend you, support you or encourage you? Trust me, it will happen to you.
Women often become the scapegoat for many issues. I remember something a very wise man told me once. He said “anytime a man uses a woman in business to do his dirty work, that is a pathetic man and he will throw her under the bus at the first sign of trouble”. I do believe that our current president is very capable of being one of those men. When it happens, I hope that many of you will remember this post. There is one principal that God has implemented that never fails us is “you reap what you sow”. Many people never connect the dots with their life’s pains with what they have done, nevertheless, those seeds still bear fruit.
Why do women allow themselves to be used like this in our society? I was offended each time Hillary was called out of her name. Why weren’t the women in the Trump camp including Ivanka, Melania and his so-called “spiritual leader” Paula White, woman enough to say, “Can we please curtail the name calling? I find it offensive and it is not what we evangelicals do when dealing with an enemy.” He definitely saw her as an enemy because he did everything in his power to crush her.
What has caused this hurtful dynamic? If your politics is good for the country, why do you need to demean another person, another woman? Where was the chivalry the good ole south likes to think, they have since they were most of his constituents? Why couldn’t you simply tell us what you will do to make the country better? You could have simply focused on your plans and policies.
Hillary is a person. She is a person that God created and what Christianity do you subscribe to that does not teach you to be at least kind. I Peter 3:9 says “Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with good because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.” In the end, she was the one who behaved liked the Christian that Trump and his cronies claimed to be.
The theme in this new administration is to be vicious, mean, nasty and it started with its leader on the campaign trail. I truly believe that you reap what you sow. With that being said it’s impossible for this administration to have a smooth, productive four years because they have sown such vicious seeds of hate and evil. God would be unjust to allow someone who has caused so much division and encouraged belittling women, the disabled and minorities to reign drama-free and successful.
Sadly, we the people of America including Hillary Rodham Clinton lose. When America loses, we all lose. Trump supporters are more concerned with proving the other half of the country wrong that they aren’t really thinking about the country as a whole. Clinton supporters are now so focused on ensuring Trump knows that they hate him and protest anything that he does. Trump made the rules for this new game. But where does that leave the country? We must turn our attention to the 2018 primaries and continue to protest and not be silenced with fear and lies or “alternative facts”.
So back to my original question; White women why didn’t YOU defend your sister and still vote for Trump? You had the power to stop all the hate early but you joined in and encouraged him in it and now we have a divided country that hates him as Hillary relaxes at home and is probably smiling while we sit on the edge of our seats praying nothing crazy happens today.
First Lady Lynda