That's a Powerful Weapon You have there...
The most dangerous weapon any man or woman possesses is their tongue. Talking too much can destroy your reputation, relationships and guarantee that you are known more for your damaging tongue than any other good quality you may have to offer the people around you. You can have a heart of gold but if your tongue is sharp and brings pain to people then regardless of the amount of giving you bestow upon others they will tell you to keep your gift.
My tongue is POWERFUL
The tongue has the power to totally ruin your life and the lives of others. Some people often believe that it is their duty to tell people how they feel or what they think. It may make them feel better but are you willing to suffer the consequences? All actions have consequences and those made with your tongue should be well thought out before committing.
Look at these situations and comment if you know these types of tongues:
These are people that publicly embarrass their spouses. It’s embarrassing and most of us wish that at the very least, the wounded spouse would take a verbal punch back or at least pour a bottle of water over his/her head and scream shut up. Well, I guess this is not the most Christian thing to do but it would definitely feel great wouldn’t you think?
Too Loose Tongue:
These people tell everything. They can’t keep anything. They generally love gossip and turn anything into gossip. These people make a lot of assumptions and you are better off being quiet when around a “too loose tongue”. Silence can never be misquoted. This group loves to hear themselves talk. If confronted about their too loose tongue they will downplay it by saying “everyone already knows that” or ” that was no big deal”. This tongue usually belongs to someone with a busy nose, nosey. They tell everything. They tell things that no one really cares about. For some reason they feel like no one will find them interesting unless they have something juicy to tell.
This group is mean and usually bitter as well as resentful from a past issue that was never resolved. Everyone they meet after the infamous incident is a target. They can’t pretend to be nice. The acid in their heart has seared their tongue. They can’t feel the evil they violently thrust out with such force that people will often dislike them to the point of almost hate. Pride keeps this group from ever releasing the person who hurt them and it keeps them from apologizing to those they have hurt. They often conclude that the person or people who hurt them never apologized so why should they apologize. Stay away once identified.
This group says wicked things while smiling and maybe even saying things such as ” you are too sensitive” or “I didn’t mean it that way”. They are fully aware and intend to have the impact that they have on others. A sly tongue has the ability to tell people things that they really don’t want to know nor asked to hear. They are cunning so be careful. They will get you involved in a mess that you never had any intentions of being involved with so steer clear. Sneaky is the feeling you will experience when with them. You will always feel like they are trying to get some information from you and they have mastered this art making it easy to get you to talk.
Too Loud Tongue:
This tongue is inside of a person that has to be seen so everything they say is loud. Hello is always loud because I have just entered a room and everyone must know that I am here. Goodbye is equally as loud because I am hoping no one wants me to leave. When in fact everyone is usually glad when you leave. You suck up all the air in the room. No one can breath with you around. Everything you do is loud; you talk loud, you laugh loud, you correct loud, you congratulate loud, and you are always in showboat position. You are too loud and too much. This group never needs a cell phone. Their conversations will include everyone around them even if you aren’t interested in the conversation.
Whinning and Complaining Tongue:
This tongue is annoying. These people look for opportunities to whine and complain. They give everyone a hard time because their goal in life is to force you to do or say something to them that they can whine or complain about because no one is perfect. They, most of all, feel inadequate so they have to complain and whine about others. They wouldn’t know what to do if they aren’t allowed to complain and whine. These people can have all of their questions answered and everything they requested placed on a silver platter in front of them and they would still complain about something. God left this group in the wilderness for forty years to die off so if you know someone like this you may want to avoid them. At their core they have to complain.
Too Funny Tongue:
This tongue is always cracking jokes at anyone’s expense. Usually people get tired of laughing with them and at them before avoiding them all together. This person may be covering up a serious issue and laughter is their escape. They don’t want you to see their problems. Seeing the real person is fearful for them more than for others. They have gone into hiding within themselves. Their slogan is “Just Laugh and Don’t Look Inside”.
This tongue needs attention and any attention will do. If I have to be a damsel in distress I will do that or if I have to create an illness, I will do that also. This person is seeking a pity party at any cost. These people have concluded that the best way to seek attention is to create situations that cause everyone to feel sorry for them. Everything that happens in their life is exaggerated. A ingrown toenail becomes an abscess that needs lancing in the ER and their insurance card was eaten by the dog and now the dog is in ICU at the local dog hospital. A bad haircut becomes a personal vendetta against her because the stylist boyfriend winked at her twenty years ago. Ordering a cheeseburger and getting a hamburger can never be solved by simply adding a slice of cheese of his or her choice. It just never quite tasted right and later at home he or she has had the worst cramps short of child bearing or a kidney stone. Oh, and if someone pours water on my head, it’s ok that they did it because I have work it to my advantage. It’s also fine if you want to leave me the scraps and you eat the steak and lamb. I am a marty and all the attention I can get from that makes this bad experience worth it. I actually look for ways for people to walk all over me. Please don’t call this group humble because Jesus was humble but in reading the Bible you will see that he often got the Pharisees off of him quite easily with his words of truth.
Piece of Mind Tongue:
These people think everyone is stupid and they have something to say on every subject. They have convinced themselves that people are afraid of them when in fact they dread this tongue type. If others ever tell them what they actually think of them they will become a pity tongue. These people wear their ” I will give you a piece of my mind because I don’t take no stuff” attitude as if it were a badge of honor. They are seldom truly liked and sadly they may have some good qualities but the hot head housing the tongue is too lethal for friends. So sad.
This person is not sure who they like, who they serve or if they will be loyal too from day to day. They only serve themselves. They change daily and should never be trusted. The last person they talked to is the opinion that they hold until someone else comes along with a better idea or plan. This person will always have a scape goat to take the fall for the messes they create. Creating strife and division is their goal in life. A day without drama is like a day without oxygen. Never trust this person. They will make you cry if you let your guard down. Be extremely quiet around this tongue.
This person says all the right things but means none of them. Some people have good intentions but are unable to follow through because they are limited but would like to be able to fulfill the obligation. This is not that person. This is a trickster. This person uses flattery but they have one goal in mind and it benefits them and them alone. They can appear friendly, fun, compassionate, caring, logical, wise, helpful, etc. to obtain their goal. Once they have what they need from you these people are usually no where to be found. They can’t love or make emotional connections. They can go from nice to nasty within seconds. Love is foreign and risky to them and this is why they can easily replace people. You can’t discard people if you care about them so they don’t make those kind of attachments. They have “flavors of the month” but never a lifetime commitment to anyone. But if you happen to be the flavor for the month you will believe you are different and special. This person leaves quite a few scars and skeletons behind when they walk off. They never look back, so be warned. They are smooth, slick and some may find them pretty but remember, they are deadly.
The holder of this tongue is too smart for their own good. This person feels intellectually superior and will always look for opportunities to belittle people with their quick wit and mental sharpness. The only problem with this person is that no one likes them and as soon as they can leave them, fire them or curse them out they jump at the opportunity. Me first, oh please allow me (but not really me, people that know them jump at the opportunity to tell them off). There is a line of people who would like to humiliate this person. People in this category may try to temper their sassy tongues for awhile only to revert back to it when they feel as if the person is hooked. Loss is usually the best teacher for this bunch. My advice is don’t be their first love, you will catch hell on earth and in the after life without Jesus. That’s a bad way to live and die.
Now this tongue is not a mean and spiteful person, they are just a little too blunt. The problem is not necessarily them but the world we live in because people rarely want to hear the truth. They have to temper this tongue with love and timing. If they don’t use love and find the perfect timing people will dislike them and never accept their truth. This tongue usually belongs to a no nonsense individual who can be mean if they don’t learn to balance their truth with love. You use your truth like a hammer. This can be a lonely existence if they aren’t careful. Be careful of pride causing you to not listen when people say that you are too mean for your words to matter. Don’t become ” a know it all” that badgers everyone you meet. Balance is your word.
This tongue accuses by asking questions in such a way that they let you know they think you are lying or in doubt of what you are saying. They don’t believe anything anyone says. Often its a result of them being liars or they are in close contact with a liar. They may be married to one or dating one. This person may have some trust issues. Proceed with caution. You will tire of this person so be careful.
Oddly enough, many people have asked when I teach this lesson "How can you summarize these tongues?"
The Holy Spirit is always a revealer of people, motives and the intent of their hearts. With having counseled in the church for the last thirteen years, taken Christian Counseling classes, watched people and especially women at work, as well as having read hundreds of books on people, personalities, and personalities disorders, I have compiled a wealth of information. Learning how to identify these people early is the best defense especially when dealing with some of the more lethal tongues. All can be draining and if you have been identified, I will soon post remedies for the bad mouth folks. LOL.